Welcome to “Recovering Shopaholic.” I’m glad you’re here! You’ll find over 400 articles in the archives to help you in your journey to shop smarter, cultivate a workable wardrobe, and place shopping into its rightful place in your life.
Since I know it can be overwhelming to visit a new blog that’s chock full of information, I created this page to make things easier for you. Included below is a bit of information about me and the blog and how the site is structured. I also highlight some of the most popular and helpful posts on the key topics I write about.
About Me and the Blog
My name is Debbie Roes. I’m 50 years old and live in San Diego, California, with my husband of 15 years and our two cats. I’ve struggled with compulsive shopping for over three decades, but things really came to a head after I entered my forties. I was spending far more money on clothes than I’d agreed upon with my husband and my closet was jam-packed full of items I rarely or never wore – and no matter how much I bought, it was never enough!
I created “Recovering Shopaholic” in January 2013 as a way to keep myself accountable and connect with other shopaholics who wished to recover. I wanted to trade my full closet for a full life and help others do the same.
I had no idea how many people would read my words, but I knew that publicly declaring my intentions and sharing the good, bad, and ugly of my journey would help to keep me on the straight and narrow. I was thrilled to start receiving comments from other shopaholics and to learn that my thoughts and insights had made a difference for them in their recovery. In truth, my readers have helped me as much as I’ve helped them, and they keep me going during tough times.
If you’re struggling with overshopping, I want to assure you that there is hope for recovery! The fact that I can now refer to myself as an “ex-shopaholic” in the titles of my books is something I never would have envisioned even two years ago. Recovery occurs on a continuum and there are definitely lots of ups and downs, but I continue to grow and change every day. You can, too! My hope for all of us is that we can have smaller wardrobes and fuller lives!
How the Site is Structured
If you’d like to learn more about me and my mission for the blog, check out my About page. You can also read a bit more about my history here (and here) and check out my media coverage and guest posts here. You can see a list of my past posts on my Archives page, where you can also browse posts by category or search by key words or phrases. The sidebar of the site also includes links to the various post categories, as well as a list of recent posts.
Recovery Tips and My Books
From the beginning of the blog, I’ve made an effort to include useful tips and suggestions for my readers in all of my posts. Much of this information has been consolidated on my Recovery Tips page, with links back to the original posts for those who’d like to learn more and/or read the comments posted by readers.
- For a more comprehensive collection of my smart shopping tips, check out my first book, “UnShopping: Recovery Solutions from an Ex-Shopaholic.” You can learn more about the book on this page or click here to purchase the book on Amazon.
- A more complete compilation of my wardrobe management tips can be found in my newly released second book, “End Closet Chaos: Wardrobe Solutions from an Ex-Shopaholic.” Visit this page for information about the book or use this link to buy the book on Amazon.
The “End Closet Chaos” Closed Facebook Group
In August 2015, I created a closed Facebook group called “End Closet Chaos” for those who want to discuss the types of issues covered on the blog with like-minded people. The group is not limited to just shopaholics; it’s for anyone who struggles with shopping and wardrobe-related issues. There are currently over 1200 members in this group, from all around the world!
Here’s a brief overview of what the group is about:
The “End Closet Chaos” group is for anyone who struggles with “closet chaos” of any kind, including but not limited to: owning too many clothes, having trouble letting things go, compulsive shopping, and not knowing what to wear or what your style is. This is a place where we can discuss all of these issues, offer support, and help each other find solutions to various closet conundrums. This is a supportive and non-judgmental group for like-minded people to share ideas, questions, challenges, and successes. Feel free to pose any questions you have, vent your frustrations, ask for feedback, We can definitely help each other with all sorts of wardrobe and shopping dilemmas. Just ask!
For those who aren’t familiar with how closed Facebook groups work, here’s a brief overview. Only members of the group can see what is posted and members must be approved in order to join. Your Facebook friends will not see anything you post to the group in their feeds and the name of the group will not appear anywhere on your Facebook page. See this page for more information about the types of Facebook groups and their privacy.
If you wish to join the “End Closet Chaos” closed Facebook group, click here. I or another moderator will approve you as soon as possible and you can then join in on the conversation. Feel free to comment on any existing threads or start a new one (to either introduce yourself or ask a question). You can also post photos, a feature that is not available in the comments section of the blog. In addition, the discussion topics in the Facebook group are not constrained by the subjects I choose to blog about. The sky’s the limit related to shopping, wardrobe management, accountability, personal style, and more. I take part in the Facebook group as I am able to do so, but it is more about interacting with each other than with me. It’s a very active and supportive group of women and new members are always welcome!
Resources, Social Media, and Contacting Me
I have also collected a list of resources that I have personally vetted on my Resources page. Included on that page are courses, programs, and books that I have taken or read and recommend to others. The book recommendations include the topics of shopping psychology and ethics, personal style, and general personal development selections.
If you’d like to connect with me via social media or send me a personal message, you can do so via my Connect page. I like hearing from readers and always respond to emails I receive via the blog. It may take me a few days to respond, but I promise to answer any questions you have for me.
Some Helpful Posts to Get You Started
I’ve compiled a quick start guide of some of my most compelling and helpful posts. These posts are organized by topic so you can easily navigate to those areas you’re most interested in. I also invite you to check out my “best of” posts for the first three years of the blog:
- “The Best of Recovering Shopaholic 2016“
- “The Best of Recovering Shopaholic 2015“
- “The Best of Recovering Shopaholic 2014“
- “The Best of Recovering Shopaholic 2013”
Great Posts to Start With:
- Shopaholic Signs, Reasons, and Recovery
- Shopaholic Recovery: Past, Present, and Future
- Compulsive Shopping Tips & Resources “Cheat Sheet“
Reasons for Overshopping:
- The Reasons We Shop Too Much
- Why Do You Overshop?
- What Caused Your Compulsive Shopping Problem?
- Shopping for Acceptance
- What it Means to Be a Recovering Shopaholic
- What Triggers You to Shop?
- What are your Shopping “Aftershocks”?
- Feelings Before, During, and After Shopping
- The Things Shopping Won’t Fix
- Shopaholic Lies and Covert Operations
- Retail Therapy is a Ruse
- On Sales, Marketing Messages, FOMO, and Shopping
- Who Are You Dressing For?
Clothing Quality & Sustainability:
- How to Tell if a Garment is Well-Made
- Do You Wear Your Clothes 30 or More Times?
- Where to Find Quality Clothing
- Where to Find Quality T-Shirts
- Sometimes Cheap is Really More Expensive
- Forget Fast Fashion! Join the Slow Fashion Movement
- Useful Links: Fast Fashion and Ethical Shopping
- Avoiding the 3 Most Common August Shopping Mistakes (useful any month!)
- Learning from Our Shopping Mistakes
- On Conscious Shopping, Powerful Questions, and Avoiding Returns
- A New Twist on an Old Shopping Rule
- A Simple Shopping Rule – Buy Once!
- Dressing and Shopping for a Life in Flux
- Buyer’s Remorse – Where Did My $50,000 Go?
- Tips for Successful Resale Shopping
- Useful Links: Tips for Shopping Smarter
- How to Determine if a Purchase Was a Good One
- How Shopping Support Structures Can Help Us Shop More Wisely
- How Many New Items Should We Buy Each Year?
- Why Track Your Wardrobe?
- The Nuts & Bolts of Wardrobe Tracking
- Why Tracking Purchases is Important & How to Do It
- The Wardrobe “Benchwarmer” Project
Wardrobe Size & Closet Downsizing:
- Normal-Sized Wardrobe Revisited…
- What is Your Ideal Wardrobe Size?
- Do You Have a Closet “Set Point”?
- Decisions, Decisions… The Keep or Purge Question
- Help with Paring Down a Large Wardrobe
- Applying the Wardrobe “First Impression Test”
- Closet Culling Advice for Aspiring Minimalists (and some advice from readers)
- What to Do with Your Closet Cast-Offs
- Building a Workable Wardrobe (also see Part Two)
- Top Tips and Tools for Cultivating a Workable Wardrobe
- What is Your Closet Personality Type?
- The Enemy of the Best is the Good
- The End of Season Wardrobe Analysis
- My Top 8 Lessons from Project 333
- Alterations – Pros, Cons, Successes, and Failures
- Cold Weather Wardrobe Planning (the process works for all seasons)
- Does a “One In, One Out” Policy Work?
- The Clothes We Wear at Home
- Success Leaves Clues – Lessons from our Favorites
- Answering My Own Questions
- How Journaling Can Improve Your Style
- Do Your Clothes Make You Smile?
- The Ups and Downs of “Uniform Dressing”
- On Body Image, Shopping, and Style
- How to Dress for Weight Fluctuations
- Useful Links for Determining Your Personal Style
- My Virtual Styling Session with Bridgette Raes (see the series HERE)
I truly hope my articles make a difference in your life. If you like what you’re reading here, please consider subscribing for free updates by email and sharing my work with your friends.
With Best Wishes, Debbie