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Welcome to “Recovering Shopaholic.”  I’m glad you’re here!  Although this blog is no longer being updated, you’ll find hundreds of articles in the archives to help you in your journey to shop smarter, cultivate a workable wardrobe, and place shopping into its rightful place in your life.

Since I know it can be overwhelming to visit a new blog that’s chock full of information, I created this page to make things easier for you.  Included below is a bit of information about me, the blog, and how this site is structured.  I also highlight some of the most popular and helpful posts you might want to read.

About Me and this Blog

Debbie - closetMy name is Debbie Roes.  I’m 54 years old and live in San Diego, California, with my husband of 20 years and our two cats.  I’ve struggled with compulsive shopping for over three decades, but things really came to a head after I entered my forties.  I was spending far more money on clothes than I’d agreed upon with my husband and my closet was jam-packed full of items I rarely or never wore – and no matter how much I bought, it was never enough!

I created “Recovering Shopaholic” in January 2013 as a way to keep myself accountable and connect with other shopaholics who wished to recover.  I wanted to trade my full closet for a full life and help others to do the same.

I had no idea how many people would read my words, but I knew that publicly declaring my intentions and sharing the good, bad, and ugly of my journey would help to keep me on the straight and narrow.  I was thrilled to start receiving comments from other shopaholics and to learn that my thoughts and insights had made a difference for them in their recovery.   In truth, my readers helped me as much as I helped them, and they kept me going during tough times.

If you’re struggling with overshopping, I want to assure you that there is hope for recovery!   The fact that I can now refer to myself as an “ex-shopaholic” in the titles of my books is something I never would have envisioned before I started this blog.  Recovery occurs on a continuum and there are definitely lots of ups and downs, but I continue to grow and change every day.  You can, too!  My hope for all of us is that we can have smaller wardrobes and fuller lives!

Site Structure and My New Blog

If you’d like to learn more about me and the mission of this blog, check out my About page.  You can also read a bit more about my history here (and here), and check out my media coverage and guest posts here.  You can see a list of all of my posts on the Archives page, where they are listed by title from most to least recent.  The sidebar of the site also includes links to the various post categories, as well as a list of my most popular posts.  You can also use the search box at the top right to find information based upon key words and phrases.

PLEASE NOTE:  This blog is no longer being updated, but it will remain online as an ongoing resource for those who struggle with shopping, wardrobe, and style issues. I invite you to visit my new blog, “My Wardrobe, Myself,” which explores the intersection of clothing, emotions, and life.

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Recovery Tips and My Books

Debbie with BookFrom the beginning of the blog, I made an effort to include useful tips and suggestions for my readers in my posts.   Many of the tips from the first year of “Recovering Shopaholic” were compiled on my Recovery Tips page, with links back to the original posts for those who’d like to learn more and/or read the comments posted by readers.

Resources and Contacting Me

I have also collected a list of resources that I have personally vetted on my Resources page.  Included on that page are courses, programs, and books that I have taken or read, and would recommend to others.   The book recommendations include the topics of shopping psychology and ethics, personal style, and general personal development selections.

If you’d like to send me a personal message, you can do so via my Connect page.  I like hearing from readers and always respond to emails I receive via the blog.  It may take me a few days to respond, but I do my best to answer any questions that are posed me.  Please note that I do not accept unsolicited guest posts and I don’t participate in link exchanges.

Some Helpful Posts to Get You Started

I’ve compiled a quick start guide of some of my most compelling and helpful posts.  These posts are organized by topic so you can easily navigate to those areas you’re most interested in.  I also invite you to check out my “best of” posts for each full year of the blog:

To see a full listing of all of my posts, please visit my Archives page.

Great Posts to Start With:

Reasons for Overshopping:

Shopping Psychology:

Clothing Quality & Sustainability:

Smart Shopping:

Wardrobe Tracking:

Wardrobe Size & Closet Downsizing:

Wardrobe Management:

Personal Style:

I truly hope my articles make a difference in your life.  If you like what you’ve read here, please consider sharing my work with your friends. I also invite you to follow my new blog, “My Wardrobe, Myself,” where I post new essays about once a week on the intersection of clothing, emotions, and life.

With Best Wishes, Debbie