Welcome to Recovering Shopaholic. If you want to curb your shopping habits, cultivate a workable wardrobe, learn to dress in the best possible way for your body, life, and personality, and understand why you continue searching for more, keep reading.
I started this blog because I was tired of all the lying and hiding I had been doing for so many years. I was truly ready to become a recovering shopaholic. I wanted to reform my maladaptive buying behaviors and heal what was broken inside that pushed me to shop for things I didn’t really need or even want. I started blogging as a way of keeping myself honest, as well as a means of connecting with others who also want to recover and trade their full closets for even fuller lives.
You can expect honesty and full transparency from every blog post and each interaction that you have with me. Expect to be educated and entertained. More importantly, expect to face your shopping struggles and wardrobe and style woes. In my posts, I ask tough questions and suggest fun challenges we can do together. Through it all, we will grow, learn, laugh, cry, and discover what is most important to us.
Many of my posts are highly personal and focus on me and my unique situation, but I have always tried to include useful lessons for you in each article I publish. This blog has always been about connection and community, hope, and healing. I sincerely hope my insights will help others like me who find “Recovering Shopaholic.”
Over the years since this blog began, the spirit of community has enabled us to help each other in ways I never would have anticipated. The whole really is greater than the sum of its parts. I owe a great debt to all of the wonderful readers who have supported me along the way!
Please note that this blog is no longer being updated, but it will remain online as an ongoing resource for those who struggle with shopping, wardrobe, and style issues. I invite you to visit my new blog, “Full Life Reflections,” which centers on the pursuit of happiness, peace, and fulfillment in a chaotic world.
About the Author, Debbie Roes
Hi, my name is Debbie Roes and I’m a recovering shopaholic. For much of my life, I shopped too much (and for all the wrong reasons) and had far too many clothes in my closet!
I love to shop and I am good at it. I’m a champion shopper – for other people. When I shop for myself, my emotions get involved and stand in the way of my making good decisions. Conversely, when I shop for others, I am completely objective and able to help them see past their emotional issues related to clothes and shopping.
I loved shopping so much that I even tried working as a wardrobe consultant for a few years. But I felt like an alcoholic working in a bar! My compulsive shopping spun even farther out of control when I tried to “shop for a living,” as I felt pressured to “measure up” to my job title. I felt like I was forever chasing a moving target (to be stylish) that I never seemed to reach, which sent me shopping frantically and far too often.
I started this blog in January 2013 after my shopping habit had become completely unmanageable and my closet had become jam-packed full of clothes, most of which I rarely or never wore. I created some goals and rules for myself (see updates here: 2014 | 2015 | 2016) and set off on my journey to become a recovering shopaholic. I decided to use this blog as a way to keep myself accountable – and connect with, inspire, and be inspired by other shopaholics who want to mend their overshopping ways.
I’m very pleased to have found an audience and that my words and ideas have touched readers around the world. In truth, my readers have helped me at least as much as I’ve helped them! I’ve learned so much from the insightful comments and emails I have received since this blog’s inception – and many of the topics I’ve written about were inspired by readers.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or comments for me. I always welcome input from readers, even though I am no longer publishing new posts on this site.
As I mentioned above, I am now writing a new blog, “Full Life Reflections,” which picks up where this blog left off. Now that my closet is no longer so full and I’m spending far less time and attention on shopping, I’m dedicating more energy toward developing a fuller and more fulfilling life. If this resonates with you, I invite you to check out my new blog and subscribe.