I’m going to publish this month’s installment of useful links a little early, as I have another post I’d like to share later in the week. Included below are links to articles I think you’ll enjoy on the subjects of shopping and shopping psychology, wardrobe management, style, and personal development. I’m also sharing a few previous “Recovering Shopaholic” posts that you may have missed the first time around (or may choose to revisit now).
This “grab bag” of useful links presents the perfect opportunity for you to sit back with your favorite hot beverage or glass of wine and enjoy some quiet time to read, learn, look within, and maybe even laugh a time or two. As a reminder, I certainly do not expect you to click on all of the links in these posts. Just explore the ones that most intrigue you.
As in all recent useful links editions, the photo above is one of mine. I periodically share my photos over on Instagram as well (I need to get better at doing that!). If you want to see my photos there, you can follow me at debbie_roes. You can also check out my previous “photography interlude” blog posts. I know it’s been a little while since my last one, but I will get back to publishing these posts approximately once a month very soon.
If you’d like, you can always go back to this post later via my Archives page. While you’re on the site, you might also want to check out my Recovery Tips and Resources pages, as well as learn about my two books. If you’re new to “Recovering Shopaholic,” I invite you to visit my Start Here page, which contains useful information about the blog, as well as links to some of my most compelling and helpful posts. Okay, here are this month’s links:
On Shopping and Shopping Psychology
- “Throwaway Fashion: Women Have Adopted a Wear it Once Culture” – If you like statistics as much as I do, you’ll love this recent article from The Daily Mail. A survey of 2000 women found that most clothes are only worn seven times before they are discarded and many women consider a garment “old” after having worn it just three times! Those are just a few of the compelling figures shared, but I was most surprised by what was considered an average size wardrobe by the respondents and how often most women shop. I’m definitely an outlier on both of those fronts!
- “Know Your Weaknesses” – Many of us struggle with buying on impulse, but did you know that there are four different types of impulse purchases? This post from The Nife en L’Air highlights all four and presents a personal example of one type with some suggestions for counter-balancing it. Also included are compelling questions we can ask ourselves in order to figure out our weaknesses and start taking steps to better manage them.
- “You Weren’t Born to Pay Off Debt and Die” – I know that not everyone who reads this blog is dealing with debt, but it is a big problem for many people. But as Blonde on a Budget says, “our time on this planet is far too short to let debt control your life.” Every time we go into debt to buy something, we are making a choice. It’s important to realize that, as we are then empowered to make different choices and perhaps take the route that comes with the least amount of stress or anxiety. This is a compelling read that will really make you think.
On Wardrobe Management
- “How to Build a Wardrobe One Piece at a Time” – If you are visually oriented and believe that a picture speaks a thousand words, you should definitely check out the great wardrobe building posts from The Vivienne Files. I especially like this one, as it starts with one three-piece outfit and shows how adding one well thought out piece at a time leads to a cohesive wardrobe with abundant combinations. The resulting capsule is sixteen pieces (7 tops, 4 toppers, and 5 bottoms) that all work well together in terms of color and style.
- “Forty Days – Forty Items: The Lent Closet Purge” – The Catholic season of Lent has been under way for about two weeks now, but it’s not too late to begin this Lent-inspired wardrobe challenge. Check out this post from Wardrobe Oxygen to learn how all of us, Catholic or not, can work to clean out our closets during this season. It’s an easy and fun way to downsize, one item at a time.
- “The Wear Quotient of Wardrobe Items” – Many of us lament that we aren’t wearing the items in our closets often enough, but there are good reasons as to why some pieces will be worn more than others. In this great article from You Look Fab, three levels of wear quotients are outlined: the workhorses, the backbone, and the specialists. Knowing which is which can help guide our wardrobe management process, as well as our shopping.
- “Shabby to Chic – Buying the Right Pieces” – I recently discovered this classic post from Putting Me Together that really crystallizes some things I’ve been thinking about lately. Sometimes the difference between a boring outfit and an interesting and stylish one is subtle. It’s all in the details! For example, a black lace tank will make an outfit look more polished than a plain cotton one. This makes a lot of sense to me and I’m going to strive to buy pieces with more special details in the future. That way, I won’t need a topper or a lot of accessories in order to look – and feel – good in what I’m wearing.
- “How Internal and External Factors Impact Your Style” – This article from You Look Fab provides a lot of food for thought. The main point is that our style is affected by two groups of factors: internal factors that are all about us and external factors that relate to our context. Internal factors include our style preferences and body type, while external factors encompass our lifestyle, climate, and budget. While I have considered – and written about – most of the influencers mentioned, I’ve never seen them grouped in such a way before and found it useful to think about things in that manner.
- “Undergarments: Hidden Secrets for Looking Put Together” – We don’t generally think much about our undergarments in terms of our style, but they can really make or break an outfit. It’s hard to feel attractive and confident when our underpinnings are digging into our flesh or riding up unnecessarily. Audrey of Putting Me Together shares seven undergarment tips she uses to feel more pulled together in her clothes. I have never heard of tip #6 before!
On Other Topics
- “How I Quit My Smartphone Addiction and Really Started Living” – As someone who has gotten too attached to my phone, I was excited to read this article from The Guardian. The author has lived without a cell phone for 18 months and is much happier for it. She now gets more sleep, has better relationships, and is more present to life and her own thoughts. I don’t know that I want to completely quit my smartphone, but I do want to reach a happy medium in which I am the master instead of a slave.
- “Understanding the Meaning of Colors in Color Psychology” – We all have favorite colors that we like to wear, but did you know that there are deeper meanings to our preferred hues? A fascinating website called Empower Yourself with Color Psychology has a lot to teach us about color as a form of non-verbal communication. This particular page highlights the basic meanings of standard colors such as red, green, blue, pink, white, and black. If you want to delve deeper, there’s a whole page on each individual color, as well as information on color as it relates to business, personality, culture, and more.
- “Organization Expert Marie Kondo Declutters Her Brain Like She Declutters Her Closets” – I’ve written before about using the “KonMari Method” to declutter my closet, books, and music collection, but did you know that it can also be used to “tidy” our minds? In this article on Motto, Marie Kondo shares the coping strategy she uses when she feels she has too much to do and there’s no way to handle it all. She breaks down the four steps to her process and shows some personal examples. I haven’t tried it yet, but I can see how it can be helpful for dealing with our cluttered minds.
From the Archives
Each month, I share a few early “Recovering Shopaholic” posts that I think you might enjoy reading (you can see all of my posts on the Archives page). The articles below were all published in February 2013, the second month of the blog. It was fun to revisit them today and I hope you enjoy them, too. If you resonate with what I have written, I’d love to get your thoughts. I wish I could leave comments open on old posts, but due to spam issues I have to close things out after two weeks. Please feel free to share your views about the archived articles in the comments section of this post instead.
- “Reflections on the First Month” – I thought it would be interesting to share this very early post here. In it, I write about my experiences of the first month of my recovering shopaholic project. I include some insights on returning things to shop more, feeling like a kid in a candy store at the mall, and how it was for me to live with my rules and limits while shopping early in 2013.
- “What is a Normal-Sized Wardrobe” – This is the most popular post on the blog, probably because it’s a question that a lot of people have. The basis of this article was my husband’s closet audit and how it led me to question whether or not the number of items he had was “normal.” As a result, I delved into issues of optimal frequency of wear and wardrobe size and came up with a basic formula that can help us all decide how much is enough – or too much.
- “Thoughts on the Target Designer Collections” – After I stopped into Target and perused their latest designer collaboration, I offered some insights as to why such collections are so popular, as well as why people are enamored with designer pieces in general. While it’s common to try to derive a sense of esteem through what we wear, true self-worth can only come from within. I’m still working on that one…
I hope you enjoyed this installment of useful links. Feel free to comment on any of the topics from this post and/or share links to articles that you’ve enjoyed recently. If you have questions for me or suggestions for future posts, please share them in the comments section or contact me directly via email or social media.