Before I dive into the topic of today’s post, I want to thank regular reader Margaret for her excellent post on how to successfully shop for clothes on eBay. Usually when people write guest posts, they do so at least partially to drive traffic to their own blogs, but a few readers of “Recovering Shopaholic” have written articles solely out of a desire to share their knowledge with others. Margaret is one of these people and her post was very informative and comprehensive! To see all of the previous guest posts on the blog, click here. If you have a topic you’d like to share with this community, please contact me to tell me about it and find out if it would be a good fit for a future post.
With all that said, let’s move on to today’s post. It’s coming up on the end of August, so it’s time for me to share my latest “grab bag” of useful links (see previous editions here). Included below are links to articles I think you’ll enjoy on the subjects of shopping and shopping psychology, wardrobe management, style, and personal development. I usually also share a few previous “Recovering Shopaholic” posts that you may have missed the first time around, but since I just opened the archives last week on the topic of compulsive shopping, I’m skipping that section this month and including some extra articles in the other categories instead.
As a reminder, I certainly do not expect you to click on all of the links in these posts. Just explore the ones that most intrigue you. You can always go back to this post later via my Archives page if desired. While you’re on the site, you might also want to check out my Recovery Tips and Resources pages (both of which will be updated soon), as well as learn about my two books. Also, if you’re new to “Recovering Shopaholic,” I invite you to visit my Start Here page, which contains useful information about the blog, as well as links to some of my most compelling and helpful posts. Okay, here are this month’s links:
On Shopping and Shopping Psychology
- “5 Ways to Beat Your Shopping Addiction” – This article from CBS Moneywatch was shared by a reader during the heated discussion we had last week about the recovery process from compulsive shopping. Not only does the author share some powerful ways to address a shopping problem, he also outlines what doesn’t work, namely shame and logic. Well worth a read…
- “Understanding the Diderot Effect (and How to Overcome It)” – You may have never heard the term “Diderot Effect” before (I know I hadn’t…), but I’m sure you’ve experienced it. It’s what happens when we buy one new thing and find ourselves wanting to buy more. This article from Becoming Minimalist explains this phenomenon further and offers five tips on how to resist unnecessary consumerism.
- “Fear & Eileen Fisher Slouchy Pants” – I’ve posted quite a few articles from Grechen’s Closet’s “Minimal Closet” series before and they are all well worth reading (even a second or third time). But recently, Grechen found herself doing a lot of shopping following a period of closet downsizing, less buying, and being happy with what she had. Her reason for doing so strongly resonated with me – because it’s easier to focus on our wardrobes than on the deep unknown of other areas in our lives. I really saw myself in what Grechen wrote and I suspect many of you will, too. This post served as a powerful reminder that I need to focus more on the rest of my life, no matter how scary it may be…
- “Clothing Budget Q & A” – The topic of clothing budgets and how much we should spend on our wardrobes is one that is rarely discussed by style bloggers. That’s why I really appreciated this recent Q & A post from Putting Me Together. Audrey openly shares how much she spends on her clothes and why, and offers some useful tips on budgeting and how to determine the value of what we’re considering buying.
On Wardrobe Management
- “How to Purge Your Closet When You Love Everything in It” – This is one of the best blog posts I’ve ever read on the subject of wardrobe downsizing. I love pretty much anything that Bridgette Raes writes, but this is probably my favorite post of hers. If you’ve ever struggled with letting go of items in your closet, I highly encourage you to read this article. Topics covered include the problem with sales, “splitting your wears,” shopping bans, and why we need to stop shaming ourselves. Be sure to click on some of the links within the post and check out some of Bridgette’s other “greatest hits.”
- “Numbers – How Often Can I Wear What I Have?” – You all know how much I love numbers and analysis, so it’s no surprise that this post from MOderate Wardrobe sparked my interest. We often think about how large we want our wardrobes to be, but what considerations go into those figures? What we really need to look at is how often we will really wear what we have. This involves considering what we own, the climate in which we live, and our lifestyle. Mo shares her process of analysis, as well as her own numbers, and it’s quite thought-provoking!
- “A Capsule Wardrobe Ain’t Perfect, and Neither Are We!” – Last month, I introduced you to the new blog, One Hundred Hangers, written by a fellow recovering shopaholic (and previous guest poster here) who is using a capsule wardrobe approach to address her compulsive shopping problem. In this post, she writes about her recent shopping guilt and what she learned from that, as well as from dressing with a capsule for the past four months. This is a good read even if you have no interest in capsule wardrobes, as many of her points are universal to all of us who struggle with overshopping, FOMO, and perfectionism.
- “Traveling Light and Packing for Travel” – Terra Trevor of Pacific Beachlife is another previous guest poster – and frequent commenter – on “Recovering Shopaholic” (see her posts HERE and HERE). Like many of us, Terra used to struggle with packing when going on a trip. However, over the years, she has learned the art of travelling light. She shares some of her best packing tips, as well as a list of what she brought with her on a recent six-day trip to St. Louis.
- “Eleven Facts and Tips about Bras and Bra Fitting” – What we wear under our clothes is just as important as the garments that other people see! This post from You Look Fab was an interesting read and I learned at least a few new things from it, including why bras are so expensive and why you shouldn’t get a bra fitting at Victoria’s Secret.
- “Do You Have a Process for Deciding What to Wear?” (video) – I like to include at least one video in these monthly link round-ups. Every once in a while, Imogen Lamport from Inside Out Style teams up with Jill Chivers of Shop Your Wardrobe to make videos on a variety of topics related to clothing and shopping. One of their recent collaborations is a lively discussion of the factors that go into their daily outfit selection. The banter between them is fun and they raise some thought-provoking points.
- “How to Look Professional and Stylish in Extreme Weather” – Erin of Pixel Perfect (a three-time guest poster on this blog – see HERE, HERE, and HERE) lives in New York City, where the temperatures range from -10 to 102 degrees F. During the hottest and coldest months of the year, those who live in more extreme climates can struggle with what to wear to keep looking stylish and professional. Erin offers some great tips – complete with photos and product links – for how to keep cool or warm as needed without sacrificing your style.
- “How to Mix and Match Jewelry” – As longtime readers know, I have a lot of jewelry. I love jewelry, but I often struggle with which pieces to wear with my outfits and how to determine if jewelry items pair well together or clash. This article from Bridgette Raes (yes, I have included two links from her today) includes five great tips on jewelry mixing and matching, complete with pictures for how to apply them. The tip that helped me the most is to separate your focal points, i.e. don’t wear statement earrings and a statement necklace at the same time (despite what you may see in catalogs!).
On Other Topics
- “A Quest for Meaning” – Sometimes we keep ourselves so busy that we don’t have time to think about what we want the meaning of our lives to be. But when we simplify our lives through a conscious effort at minimalism, we have more time to think about deeper topics beyond shopping and consumerism. This excellent article from The Nife en L’Air explores the subjects of happiness and meaning and includes some food for thought from two recent pieces that the author found meaningful.
- “The Innovation of Loneliness” (video) – You get two videos this month! This video was shared by a reader in response to one of my recent posts. Drawing upon the content of a TED talk from Sherry Turkle (which is also well worth watching), Shimi Cohen ponders the connection between social networks and being lonely. Just how fulfilling are our online connections? Are “friends” really the same as friends? Many of us are sacrificing conversation for mere connection and that comes with a price.
- “How to Avoid a Near-Life Experience” – Do you feel overwhelmed by the pace of your life and unable to relax? Do you feel distracted and have difficulty focusing? Many people today feel like something is missing in their lives despite how relentlessly busy they are. Chris Kresser is known for being a health expert, but his tips in this article for living a richer, more fulfilling, and happier life are right on. I especially need to follow suggestions #5 and #6.
- “Apples to Elephants” – No one on the internet is living the life you think they are, says Paul Jarvis. Although we pick and choose which bits and bytes we share on social media, we tend to believe that everyone else is smarter, more successful, more interesting and happier than we are. If we compare our entire lives to the highlight reels we see on other people’s feeds, we’re not comparing apples to apples. It’s more like apples to elephants. That’s the gist of this post, but I encourage you to read it anyway, as Paul has a way of saying things that really drives the point home in a powerful way.
I hope you enjoyed this installment of useful links. Feel free to comment on any of the topics from this post and/or share links to articles that you’ve enjoyed recently. If you have questions for me or suggestions for future posts, please share them in the comments section or contact me directly via email or social media.
I’ll be back soon with some reflections on entering the last year of my 40’s, an update on my “Love It, Wear It” Challenge (LIWI – see previous posts here), and my August accountability update. Stay tuned for those posts and more articles on building a workable wardrobe and cultivating a meaningful life outside of shopping.