What Are Your Shopping “Aftershocks”?

Shopping Triggers Were Discussed Last Week…

Last week, I explored the concept of “shopping triggers,” which are the various stimuli that propel us to want to shop.  I outlined the five types of triggers – situational, cognitive, interpersonal, emotional, and physical – and gave several examples of each.  I also shared some of the shopping triggers that have been personally troubling for me.

That post elicited quite a few comments and I thank those who commented for sharing your trigger experiences with me and your fellow readers.  Some of you also shared your powerful tips for dealing with triggers, which was also much appreciated. I will revisit the subject of avoiding shopping triggers in future posts, but now I’d like to turn to another subject from Dr. Benson’s book, “To Buy or Not to Buy:  Why We Overshop and How to Stop.”

“Aftershocks” Often Follow our Shopping Experiences

Let’s say you succumbed to one of your most difficult triggers and you overshopped.  Your emotions were in the driver’s seat instead of your rational mind, and you bought things you didn’t really need – or even want.  What happens next?  According to Dr. Benson, what follows are “aftershocks,” her term for the undesirable consequences of overshopping.

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Do You Save Your Clothes “For Good”?

Many of us have quite a few clothes in our closets that are rarely or never worn.  The reasons these clothes are gathering dust are many…  They may no longer fit our current bodies or suit our present day lifestyle, or we may simply not love them anymore.  These are all good reasons for passing things along to friends, family members, charity, or consignment.  There’s little sense in keeping things around that no longer work for who we are today.

Why We Save Our Clothes “For Good”

However, there’s another reason why our clothes don’t see much, if any, wear.  Sometimes we’re simply saving them “for good.”  What does that mean?  Saving “for good” is when we don’t want to wear clothes we actually like – or even love – for one of the following reasons:

  • We think our everyday occasions aren’t good enough for wearing our “nice clothes.”
  • We’re afraid of wearing out our favorite clothes and having to replace them.
  • We’re afraid we may never be able to find such nice clothes again, so we should only wear them on “special occasions.”

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A “Mixed Bag” of Useful Links

My “useful links” posts are generally centered around a particular theme, but I’m going to mix it up a bit today…

Today’s links are to articles I’ve read (and one video I watched) over the past week that I think will be of interest to my readers.  While some of these articles are on popular blogs (so you may have already seen them), others are from newer or less well-known bloggers.  I’m happy to introduce you not only to interesting and thought-provoking articles, but also to excellent blogs you might decide to follow.

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What Triggers You to Shop?

In today’s post, I explore another one of the exercises in Dr. April Benson’s wonderful book, “To Buy or Not to Buy:  Why We Overshop and How to Stop.”  I previously shared my insights from Dr. Benson’s exercise, “Why Do You Overshop?”  Today I delve into the various triggers that can propel us to shop and discuss some of the main triggers that have been problematic for me over the years.

What are “Triggers” and What Types of Triggers are There?

Shopping Triggers

What triggers you to shop? A sale sign is a trigger for many!

Dr. Benson defines a “trigger” as anything that inclines you in particular toward shopping.  A trigger can lead immediately toward shopping or it may set up a series of intermediate steps that culminate in the act of buying.  There are five different types of shopping triggers:

  1. Situational
  2. Cognitive
  3. Interpersonal
  4. Emotional
  5. Physical

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How Many Clothes are Enough?

Since the beginning of the year, I’ve reduced the size of my wardrobe by almost half, yet I still feel like I have too many clothes.  As I’ve progressed on my “Recovering Shopaholic” journey, I’ve frequently pondered the question, “How many clothes are enough?”

I’ve touched on this subject in a number of previous posts and even wrote more extensively about it in “What is a Normal-Sized Wardrobe?”  But my perspective has continued to evolve since writing that article back in February.  In today’s post, I avoid discussion of normal versus abnormal and instead look at the more individual subject of “enoughness.”

How much is enough?

Do you know many clothes are enough for you?

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Useful Links to Help You “Shop Your Closet”

Many of us are trying to pare down our wardrobes, shop less often, and add fewer pieces to our closets. However, we sometimes worry that in doing so, we might sacrifice style and not look as polished and put together as we’d like.

We often think we need to buy more in order to cultivate new looks and keep our style fresh.  While buying new pieces is one way to update our look, it’s not the only way.  There is a lot of possibility waiting to be unleashed inside our very own closets!  Today’s useful links post focuses on the practice of “shopping your closet” and how it can help us to save money, better use what we have, and amp up our style quotient.

Shop Your Closet

There is more possibility in your closet than you think!

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Decisions, Decisions… The Keep or Purge Question

Many women (and a lot of men…) have too many clothes in their closets. Even those who don’t struggle with overshopping generally have more garments, shoes, and accessories than they know what to do with, as they continue bringing new things in without moving old things out.

Closet Overwhelm

How do you decide what stays and what goes in your closet?

Having More Choices Isn’t Better or Easier

We often hang on to our clothes because we believe more choices will help us to dress better, but that’s simply not the case.  Too many clothes leads to too many choices, and the resulting overwhelming has us reaching for the same 20-30% of our pieces over and over again. Continue reading