March 28, 2013 by Debbie Roes

Why I’m Taking on the Project 333 Challenge

It’s been almost three months since I started my “Recovering Shopaholic” journey and blog. While I’ve made decent progress and learned some powerful lessons, I still have a long way to go in healing my compulsive shopping problem. I still spend far too much time and energy on shopping, getting dressed, and managing my overly large wardrobe. The portion of my life devoted to these pursuits is much too large and it’s taking away from my living a full and balanced life.

About two weeks ago, I decided to accelerate my progress. One of the best ways to grow quickly is to take on a challenge that scares you, so I’ve opted to do just that! Beginning April 1^st (no, this isn’t an April Fools’ Joke!), I will begin Project 333, a minimalist fashion challenge created by Courtney Carver of the blog “Be More with Less.”

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March 25, 2013 by Debbie Roes

The Enemy of the Best is the Good

You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.” ― Stephen R. Covey

The late, great Stephen Covey has long been one of my favorite authors. His “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” is widely regarded as one of the best self-help books ever written and offers a wealth of helpful advice for business and life. The quote above refers to priorities and goals, but I believe it also applies to our wardrobes and shopping.

The Plusses and Minuses of Trying to Wear Everything

As I embarked upon my “Wardrobe Benchwarmer Project” in January, my intention was to evaluate all of the items I hadn’t been wearing to either start wearing them regularly or let them go. Now that the first quarter of the year is almost behind us, I have learned a few things. I have pushed myself to wear close to half of my benchwarmer pieces by this point, as I want to complete the project sooner rather than later. This push to wear all of my previously unloved items has had both good and bad consequences.

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March 21, 2013 by Debbie Roes

The Reasons We Shop Too Much

Since I started “Recovering Shopaholic” in January, I’ve given a lot more thought to my reasons for shopping too much. I used to think I shopped because I loved clothes and fashion, but I’ve come to understand there is a lot more to it than that. My reasons for being a shopaholic go much deeper than a passion for style and I suspect this is true for many others who shop in excess.

Why do we buy all this stuff?!?

The following is a brief overview of my perspective on the many reasons for compulsive shopping. I will expand upon some of the reasons listed in future posts.

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March 18, 2013 by Debbie Roes

The Serial Return Phenomenon

I probably return half of the clothes, shoes, and accessories that I buy. In some ways, this isn’t a bad thing. When one tends toward impulse buying, some of the purchase decisions made are not good ones. Thus, it can be good to realize buying mistakes and remedy them through the return process. Better to make returns than to have clothes hanging in your closet with their tags still attached.

Returning to Shop More

However, I have to admit that a large portion of my returns are done with an alternate aim. I often return unworn items to shop more or to do damage control for over-shopping. When I’ve exceeded my shopping budget, returns can certainly mitigate the financial damage done, but wouldn’t it be better to stick to my budget in the first place?

This past weekend, I returned close to $800 worth of items bought in recent months. I had reviewed my budget on Friday to learn the cold, hard truth of my overspending. By mid-March, I’d already exceeded my 2013 budget by close to $600 and I needed to right this wrong.

Are you a “serial returner”?

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March 14, 2013 by Debbie Roes

Challenge – Shopping with a Friend

Last Friday, I had lunch with a friend. I get together with this friend every couple of months and we always meet at a restaurant next to the local mall. After we spend an hour or two eating and talking, we always end up shopping together. This activity may be benign for many people, but for a shopaholic, it can have disastrous results.

To add insult to injury, my friend is also a compulsive shopper, although I’m not sure to what degree she’s acknowledged her problem. I have yet to tell her (or many others in my life) about this blog, so she isn’t even aware that I’m making a concerted effort to curtail my shopping habit.