March 2015 “Grab Bag” of Useful Links

It’s the last day – and the last post – of the month, so it’s time for me to share my latest “grab bag” of useful links.   But before I do, I want to thank everyone who has shared their feedback on where to find quality clothing in response to my last post.   As I mentioned in that post, I will be adding all of the reader input to mine and creating a permanent resource page on the website.  I will share that link once it’s available.

If you haven’t had a chance to chime in about your quality clothing (and accessories) sources, you still can do so up until Friday, April 10th.  I wish I could leave comments open indefinitely on the blog, but the spammers had to go and ruin our fun such that I must close the loop after two weeks.   However, you can always submit feedback to me via the Connect Page.

Springtime flowers

Spring has definitely sprung in many parts of the world!

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Where to Find Quality Clothing

Many of us are looking to shop less often and place shopping into the proper perspective in our lives. At the same time, we’re also aiming to find quality items that will stand the test of time.   In the comments section of one of my previous posts, some readers shared resources for where they find quality clothing and asked me to share my insights on the topic.   I thought that would be a great topic for a post.  As I’ve often said, I get some of my best post ideas from readers!

focus on quality

In today’s post, I list some of my favorite locations for finding quality clothing, as well as some additional resources provided by readers.   You may also wish to check out the guest post written by frequent commenter Dottie last year, “How to Tell if a Garment is Well-Made.”  This article provides a wealth of information to help you determine if clothing pieces will last before you buy them, so I encourage you to check it out if you haven’t already seen it.

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What to Do With Your Closet Cast-Offs

I’ve written quite a bit about how to pare down an overly large wardrobe (see here and here for some of my best suggestions on this topic), but I don’t think I’ve given too much attention to what to do with our clothing cast-offs.   Today’s post outlines some suggestions for how to best move these items on to a new home.

Dealing with closet cast-offs

Are you unsure what to do with the clothing items you’ve culled?

First, an Important Point about Guilt…

Before I cover my specific suggestions, I’d like to cover one important point. A lot of times, our primary reason for holding on to clothing we no longer love is guilt. We feel guilty for having spent money on items that we have rarely or never worn. We may also experience remorse for not having used gifts that were given to us by loved ones. But such feelings cannot bring back lost dollars or push us to love things that we simply do not.

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Downsizing a Large Music Collection the “KonMari” Way

My post on how my husband and I downsized our large book collection was very well received, and many readers told me they’d like to see more content from me on the topic of de-cluttering.  Toward the end of that post, I mentioned that we had also applied the “KonMari Method” to our compact disc collection.   Today, I recount that process and share the insights learned along the way.

De-cluttering CDs

Do you have a lot of these lying around?

On Music Collections

We didn’t start out with an insanely huge music collection.   Between the two of us, we had exactly 400 compact discs.  This pales in comparison to the stash of a guy I dated long ago, who owned 2000 CDs, all arranged in alphabetical order on four racks that filled an entire wall of his living room.   In hindsight, I should have seen those impeccable racks as a red flag of an overly controlling person who approached his relationships with the same type of “things must be just so” attitude.  But you know what they say about hindsight being 20/20…

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More Thoughts on At-Home Wear

Terra Trevor’s guest post last week and the follow-on comments from readers really got me thinking about what I wear at home and how I feel about it.  I’ve written quite a bit about how our wardrobes should suit our actual lifestyles instead of imagined or wished for lives.   However, for some reason, when I’ve thought about my own wardrobe and lifestyle, I really only took my “out and about” activities into consideration.  I mostly left my at-home life out of the equation and have rarely addressed this topic on the blog thus far.

At home clothing

What do you wear when you’re at home?

Such an omission might make sense for someone who is rarely at home and spends the majority of her time at an office and engaging in after hours and weekend socializing.  This type of woman may not really need to give much attention to what she wears at home.   A few pairs of pajamas or nightgowns may be all she really needs.  But that is not my life at all.

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The Clothes We Wear at Home

The following is a guest post from Terra Trevor, author, essayist, memoirist and nonfiction writer of a widely published diverse body of work, who believes good humor is more attractive than good clothes that hang in the closet and are seldom worn.

Terra has cultivated a small workable wardrobe, with a spotlight on her full life and the clothes she wears at home. Visit her at

Terra Trevor

Terra Trevor, enjoying her life and her workable wardrobe

It was one of those days. I couldn’t wait to get home from work and change my clothes. A heavy July fog rolled in and I was so tired I decided to put on my bathrobe. After dinner my husband sliced watermelon. It was my turn to wash the dishes. What could it possibly hurt, I thought, if I left the dirty dishes sitting on the table for a while? We generally kept our house clean, yet on this day the rest of the house was a mess, with sandy beach towels, the picnic basket and cooler from a pleasure-filled weekend strewn in the hall, so I decided to let the kitchen go, too. What I really wanted to do was read my book.

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On Tidying, Books, and What Sparks Joy

I mostly write about clothing on this blog, but many of us also have a tendency to accumulate too many items in other possession categories.   My husband and I have been gradually paring things down in all areas of our home, but one area that’s been challenging has been our books, particularly mine.

De-cluttering books

Does your book collection resemble a bookstore?

A Book to Help Me De-clutter My Books?

As I’ve mentioned previously, I’m what one might call an “information junkie.”  For years, my shopaholic tendencies extended to books almost as much as with clothes, especially after Amazon Prime made it so easy and inexpensive to purchase books with a single click.   My husband had also amassed quite a few books over the years such that we had two tall bookshelves stuffed to the gills, as well as a smaller bookcase for the overflow.   Sure, we’d cull a few books here and there as time went by, but there were still far too many books in our midst.

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