At the beginning of each month, I will post photos of my favorite outfits from the previous month. My reasons for doing this are as follows:
- To review what I’ve been wearing and search for common themes to help me further hone my personal style.
- To increase my appreciation for my wardrobe so I am more satisfied with what I have and less preoccupied with buying more.
- To help myself overcome self-consciousness and excessive worries of what others think of me.
- To hopefully inspire others to shop their closets, use and appreciate what they have, and hone and express their own personal style.
The Bar is Set High for My Style…
I have to admit that the third reason is the most challenging for me. Part of why I shop compulsively is because I don’t feel I measure up in terms of my appearance and what I wear. To add insult to injury, my work as a wardrobe consultant makes me feel as if the style “bar” is raised even higher.
As I looked through my February outfits, I was not especially impressed with what I wore throughout the month. While I was comfortable and happy with many of my outfits as I was wearing them, I certainly don’t feel I look like a “fashion plate” in them.
Style Objectives – Confidence, Body Acceptance, Appropriateness
In truth, I am not really trying to be a “fashionista.” I am not overly concerned with trends and being on the cutting edge of fashion, either for myself or my clients (unless they specify that’s what they want). My primary objectives for myself and others are to increase confidence, improve body image, and dress appropriately for one’s body, lifestyle, and personality.
Developing an inspiring sense of style is a process that can take time and using outfit photos to document what one is wearing, as well as inspiration photos from other sources, can be an important part of the journey. Seeing what you’re wearing in relation to how you want to appear can assist you in identifying disconnects and working to refine your style to more closely resemble your desired image.
My Top Outfits for February 2013
With all that said, here are my favorite outfits from February 2013.
As I looked through the eight outfits I selected as my favorites from last month, the following themes were readily apparent, some of which were also mentioned in my January favorite outfits post:
- Stripes – No surprise here! Stripes have long been a favorite look of mine. While they are enjoying a moment as a current fashion trend, I have been sporting stripes for as long as I can remember.
- Black – My key neutral color, but I mostly wore it on my bottom half this past month.
- Grey – My secondary key neutral. I adore the embellished grey cardigan I bought over two years ago and it’s still receiving a lot of wear.
- Navy & Cobalt Blue – My navy pants are among my favorites, but they almost look black in photos (the pants with the cobalt coat and teal cardigan are navy) . I love the new cobalt coat I bought in February, as well as the cardigan in that hue I found at a consignment store in December.
- Green/Teal – Along with blues, greens are my favorite colors to wear. Both colors look good against my pale skin tone and dark hair.
- Leopard Print – My leopard ballet flats were a closet favorite last year and I’m trying to wear my leopard print coat frequently as well. Leopard print has the distinction of being one of the few warm tones I wear on a regular basis.
- Open Cardigans – These types of cardigans were all the rage for several years and I’m still seeing a lot of them in stores. I often run cold, so I like to include a second layer in my winter/spring outfits. In all honesty, I also appreciate the extra coverage which these pieces provide while helping me to look polished.
- Ballet Flats – I love this style for its classic look, as well as comfort. Two of the pairs I wore include a bow detail, which has a romantic feel but does not appear too “precious” for my style vibe.
- Necklaces – For a long time, I rarely wore the necklaces in my jewelry box and instead focused on statement earrings and bracelets. As part of my desire to wear everything I have this year, I’ve started incorporating my necklaces into my outfits more often. I have learned that I really love the look of a necklace with the “v” and scoop necklines I like to wear.
Why Look For Themes?
Why identify common themes? They help us to see what we enjoy wearing so we can focus on those items during future shopping trips. While it’s good to push ourselves out of our comfort zones from time to time, the majority of our outfits should reflect a sense of style that inspires us and which suits our bodies and lifestyles. The items which we gravitate towards in our wardrobes (as opposed to what we feel compelled to buy when shopping) provide clues about what makes our hearts sing style-wise.
A large part of why I have too many unworn clothes in my wardrobe is that I was shopping for an imagined lifestyle and based upon the recommendations of outside forces, such as magazines, bloggers, style experts, sales clerks, and even friends and family members. I have far too many dressy clothes for my casual San Diego lifestyle and as much as I’d love to be a person who dresses to the nines for all occasions, that’s not who I am. I am fine with dressing a few levels above those around me, but I don’t want to wear a fancy dress and heels when others are donning jeans and flip-flops (the standard attire around these parts!).
Your Own Opinion Matters Most
I believe that as the year progresses and I review and post my favorite outfits each month, I will learn more and more about what makes me tick style-wise. As I wear and evaluate my wardrobe “benchwarmers” and purge the less than fabulous garments and accessories from my closet, I think I’ll love a larger percentage of the outfits I wear. I will more fully embrace my personal sense of style and hopefully care less and less about the opinions of others.
While I want to look nice and put-together, my goal is to dress more for myself and less to impress other people. Of course, what other people think matters, but it’s our own opinion of ourselves that matters most. After all, who else will be around us twenty-four hours a day, 365 days a year?